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Reasons for Inaction

The single fastest and best way to build a reputation is to take action; to do something. Not doing something is in fact doing something. Have you ever wanted to do something, but shied away because you didn’t feel you had the prior experience, know-how, or reputation? Let me tell you a little secret – you can do anything with NO PRIOR EXPERIENCE. Guaranteed. Your reputation for being organized, a doer, risk-taker, problem solver can pave the path and open doors for you that you never imagined. I’d also add that your actions need to align with what you want to be doing. If your mission in life is to have a blog and you have no time on your calendar to blog,  then you aren’t ever going to be a blogger. Maybe you’ve filled your days, weeks, years up with work that is helping someone else achieve their goals – the company you work for, your kids, your church, your community. It’s wonderful that you are so generous with your time, but you need to make time to fulfill YOUR dreams. This world will be a lot better place with your contributions.

Take out your calendar right now. If your work and life calendars are separate put them both up side-by-side with a view of the entire month. Same month folks. Take a gander. Look across the days and weeks – those 4-5 short weeks of each month. Does your calendar align with your dreams, plans and priorities? Do you see time blocked for actualizing YOUR dreams or are you making time to fulfill someone else’s dream? Are you on a diet or trying to save money, but have lunch or dinner plans with friends 3+ days per week? If you were to bucket your calendar invitations and reminders into categories would those categories align with creating the life you wan to live?

Life is passing us by so fast! It’s November. When did that happen?!?!? If you’re a New Year resolution type of person are you on track for having achieved those bold goals you set for yourself as the clock struck midnight on January 1? Say you’re not a resolution type of person, but you created a vision board. Maybe you created a bullet journal spread with a grid of thousands of blocks to color this year for new habits you were cultivating. Maybe your dreams are stuck to a Pinterest board. Wherever they are – they are out there. Are you honoring those dreams? Drink more water, make it to the gym more, pay-off your car, read the entire Bible, run a marathon. So many big things had the potential to happen this year. Did you turn that potential into reality? If not, let’s dive into some reasons why. Why don’t people take action on their dreams?

Reason 1: You’re too busy. Visualize all of those calendar invites on your calendar as sand. Weekly “stand-up meeting” with the team to discuss work that needs to be done. Touch base with your supervisor on performance. Mac n’ Cheese competition and draft beer festival. Parent/Teacher conference. Annual mammogram. Women’s group. Reminder to buy Metallica tickets. Gym. Time blocks for blogging. These are just a few gems from my very own calendar over the past few weeks. Don’t get me wrong, some of these calendar holds are important. Some are time blocks set aside for me to show up for someone else, some of them making time to show up for YOU (you’re reading the blog post, thank you). Some of these calendar holds are not value-add and are not the best use of my time. If you poured all of your sand (calendar invites) into a vessel, would you have enough space to add those bigger milestones that need to happen as you work toward your dreams? Do your little grains of sand make a sand castle when they are all together? Or are they so scattered that they really don’t make any impact on anything? Stop making yourself busy with work that doesn’t contribute to the greater good.

Reason 2: You don’t know how. This is an excuse and a crappy one at that. You’re reading this blog which means you have access to the internet. You can Google, Bing, Ask Jeeves anything under the sun and get FREE information on how to turn your dream into reality. Want a tutorial on how to create a plan in Microsoft Project? Free on YouTube. Want a printable for making a cute, action-oriented calendar? Free on Pinterest. Want a training program for running a marathon with no previous running experience? Free on Runner’s World magazine’s website. Want a real good recipe for apple butter? Free on this here very blog (Food tab). As my girl Rachel Hollis says, in a world with so much free information your ignorance is a choice.

Reason 3: You’re dreams aren’t big enough. Stay with me for a minute. Let’s say that you dream of paying off your credit card(s). You actually look at your statement. You consolidate what you can to a lower interest rate, and you create a real life budget. Great job! The first month you pay all of your bills and what little is left over you put towards your debt. Month after month you chip away at it little by little. Over time maybe you start to reflect on the things you feel you’re missing out on. Maybe you feel like this is taking FOREVER…. It’s certainly not as much fun being fiscally frugal in the hopes of paying off a credit card or two as it was running up the debt on those cards buying stuff you can’t even remember.

Now, make that dream of paying off your credit cards bigger. Bigger than just not owing banks money. Bigger than feeling fiscally and emotionally drained at the end of the month when the money has run out. Take that dream and magnify it as big as you can. Say…..your dream is financial freedom. Financial freedom is not just not owing the banks money. Financial freedom is having actual dollars in your savings account. Having money saved for retirement. Having the money to travel when you need to or want to without feeling like you have to save for it or sacrifice something else. Having enough money to live comfortably and share your generosity with others. Having the freedom to be able to pivot and change course knowing that you’re okay. Now make a plan to make this bigger dream a reality and the pain associated with the sacrifices won’t sting quite so much. I believe that if you get beyond what you know needs to happen (paying off the credit card(s)) and get to true longing of your heart (the bigger dream) then you’ll have the fortitude to create a plan – and stick to it – that will get you to your ultimate goal faster. Those short term sacrifices that need to be made for you to reach your dream won’t be a drop in the bucket because you have your eyes on the bigger picture.

Reason 4: You’re embarrassed. Recently I saw an Instagram post by Brendon Burchard (@brendonburchard) that really struck a cord with me. It was something to the effect of it not being real fear that you’re feeling, but rather you’re embarrassed to have those around you see you start small. Does that ring true to you? Man, it sure did to me. I used to blog years ago and had created quite the following, but 2 kids and a different job later it had been more than 2 years since I had posted any content. I literally deleted the entire site one day in an episode of frustration and self-loathing. I can still hear the internal monologue today…”It’s been years since anyone’s seen anything from you, no one follows this blog any more, no one wants to hear from me. How many mom bloggers does the world need?” It was pathetic. All of the content that took me years to curate was gone with the click of a button. *Poof*

Fast forward nearly 3 years and I get this idea to re-create an outlet to put my voice out there. I ignore and push it away for nearly 8 months and then for 2 months I resign to not having time for it, but the thought won’t go away, and it starts showing up everywhere. That internal self-sabotaging voice crept back in. “You’re ridiculous. You’ll never have the followers that you did on your last blog. You have no content. When exactly are you planning to do this? Your friends and family have seen you try and quit this same thing before, they aren’t going to follow you down this path again.” (Sidebar: I really dislike this voice in my head.) I was embarrassed, not only at my having deleted my previous blog and all of it’s content, but at starting a blog/Instagram site/Facebook page with 1 post. I have some really successful friends and colleagues who follow me on social media. I can see them shaking their head or worse choosing to keep scrolling when they see this pop-up from me. Maybe I won’t share it on my social accounts, but let people find it organically. Emily, come on!

One night I couldn’t shake the feeling that I needed this outlet in my life. That feeling was far stronger than the embarrassment holding me back from starting. I stayed up all night (no sleep) creating PowerInThePlan.org. 1 logo, 1 Instagram post, 1 Facebook post, and 2 shares from my blog pages to my personal social media pages in hopes that some folks would be curious and click on the link. Oh, and that one link was me explaining my vision for the site and what I hope to offer you as the reader, it wasn’t actually value-added content. It’s been a few weeks since this site launched. It’s had 3 themes and while we don’t have 1 billion followers – we have more than 1. While this site isn’t yet exploding with content so rich that I need to add a search bar – it’s up and content is getting added all the time. 2 people even commented on different posts which means they actually read it. <insert audible gasp here>

Get this in your brain. Every new things starts from NONE. Every. New. Thing. Starts. From. None. When this was an idea in my head I had no content, no followers, nothing. Don’t be embarrassed to start small. Just start.

Reason 5: You’re the only one with this particular idea. That’s fantastic. Less competition. Please don’t tell me that you think because you are the only one with this particular idea that no one else will love it or appreciate it. Or <gasp> there won’t be a bunch of free information to follow on the internet (see Reason 2 above). This is a blessing. Having this idea that no one else has opens you up for creating more content and you’re the subject matter expert. Get the thing created and out to the people, then create the how-to, create the video demonstration, be the expert. This could be a new branding opportunity for you. This could be your way to monetize your hard work. This unique idea of your has a lot of potential and you need to take action on it. Come on.

Reason 6: Time is against you. Why start if you won’t have the time to dedicate to it? You know this better than anyone. You make time for the things you want to make time for. If you don’t want to do something you’ll find every excuse to not have to do it. On the other hand, if you have a true calling on your heart to make something happen then you will move heaven and earth to bring that body of work to life. Call a spade a spade. Time isn’t the issue. Your embarrassment of starting small, lack of focus or lack of initiative are what’s truly driving your inaction.

There are so many more reasons why people don’t take action. Most of them are excuses. Heck, even some of the reasons I have above are excuses. Bottom line if you have a calling on your heart to do something, you have every reason in the world to find out how to make that calling a reality. Let’s go! Get to work!

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